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dulwichdoll Wrote:

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> Nice touch

> when Will, after the sexual comment, asked if they

> had the internet in the Maudsley. If you can get a

> person to agree with you then just diss them eh ?



That's a bit harsh. I'm moving in next week. A sex pest like me isn't safe on the streets you see.

dulwichdoll Wrote:

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> The friendly forumites have PM me and I have

> replied. Why they didnt want to post their coments

> on here is for you to work out. The first post I

> made was indeed to complain about the bullying

> clique on here. But it was to compare my

> experience to the thread which I was posting on

> which was the vilification of Poppy. I obviously

> hit a raw nerve. Methinks the FORUMITES ( ok

> Brendan is this correct ?) protesteth too much.

> And this whole thread has shown it. Nice touch

> when Will, after the sexual comment, asked if they

> had the internet in the Maudsley. If you can get a

> person to agree with you then just diss them eh ?


Oh, well I actually meant friendly comments on this thread... oh dear.


And I'm afraid I can't work out why someone would be unwilling to post friendly comments on a thread.

Moos I had more than one PM about people feeling uncomfortable at the drinks on Friday. One posted about it himself on the board but the others did not want to be named on the thread. Ask your self why. One said 'I am know round here'. All the usual suspects have come out against my saying there was a clique on here and shown absolutely that there is. You however have been polite and helpful and I thank you for it.

Well it seems to me that there have been 3 or 4 chaps who are already notorious for their playground humour taking the mickey out of DD.


One response known to be very effective in dealing with such isolated ribaldry is as follows:


- to accuse everyone of being part of a mass conspiracy (I think it's called burning your bridges)

- to take offence indiscriminately where none is intended

- to become hyper-sensitive to every possible perceived slight

- to encourage and promote secret vindictive partnerships

- to curry partition of the forum into your side and the other side


I have watched reality shows, and every one of the contenders who took this course of action were extremely happy, always smiling, never cried or screamed and never felt lonelier than a turd in a wedding buffet even once.


The other response known to be entirely ineffective, and not to be considered under any circumstance is as follows:


- ignore the monkeys

- change the subject

- build great relationships with the friendly and charming fellow forumites


I repeat, the latter course of action should NOT be considered under any circumstances. It is guaranteed to make you UNHAPPY.


All those that took the latter course of action were very miserable.

Not really.

I think there a great variety of posters about, and occasionally they hit a brief consensus.


I know you're 'song' was posted after one too many, something we've all done and usually regretted.

It briefly brought about a consensus of opinion, and though you initially defended it as a bit of a laugh, I've got the impression you've gone away had a think about it and decided it probbly was inappropriate for this environment, and have since joined the ranks of valued contributors.


It's not about cliques it's about respecting people's ability to set out a stall and defend it rationally.


DD's hysteria has galvanised opinion that there seems to be a lot of fuss about not much and that someone won't let it go. Funnily the more DD has blithered on about cliques and bullies the more people have goaded her, so I can understand her inferences, but that doesn't make them correct, they are in effect self-fulfilling.


Of the OP and the reaction I'll grant people are often too quick to shout troll, or *sigh* or boring, but then the older posters are old hands at rooting this out and gawd knows the forum _has_ been beset many times by trolls, by idiots and by many, many occurrences of misrepresentation.


People are also pretty good at checking past posts and interpreting new ones in that light, in this case poppy has done herself no favours in the past.


It's the old thing about looking at a donkey passing a gap in a fence and eventually working out that the head causes the tail. A narrow viewpoint will often result in an understandable but essentially incorrect conclusion.

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