Dulwich Born And Bred

Thanks for that, that was interesting reading. Tooth damage and a ruined body....the price we pay for having a baby!

Hopefully the sweep will get it moving, I only had one sweep and it did nothing but I think if I was offered more sweeps, it probably would have got things moving. So try and take all the sweeps you can before you are induced. The waiting is not nice, 9 months of pregnancy feels like a lifetime without baby refusing to come out!

That is great that the guidelines have changed for inductions. My son was literally two weeks overdue and it was obvious because he had really long nails, was very dry and flaky and for those two weeks he was adding on more weight, I wished I had been induced before then. Have you had a sweep to get things moving? I tried everything too, curries, walking, pineapples etc to no avail. Castor oil was not something I was willing to try as I know it can make babies poorly also. Are you having the baby has Kings? I wished I could say I had a positive experience and that they tried to stick to my birth plan but everything for me was wrong from the induction to the birth but then I am pretty unlucky in a lot of things. I know quite a few ladies had a positive birth story, Pickle has had ( two I think ) positive inductions. So you could be able to have a positive birth also. I think as long as you have a good midwife there, then you are pretty much going to have a good experience, whereas I had various midwives and the whole thing was clinical to me as no one reassured me, explained what was happening so I ended up like your first birth! I think it would be good to make sure your midwife and birthing partners know your wishes and make it clear once you are induced that you want the whole thing to be relaxed and you want feedback, if I could turn the clock back, I would have made sure my mum was there from the start ( and not the father as he completely stressed me out and didn't make sure I was reassured and talk on my behalf to ensure the birth was not stressful, he was easily fobbed off) because she would have been able to keep me calm, talk me through everything and voice my wishes and I think it would have resulted in a calmer positive birth experience. I hope you get the birth you want and fingers crossed baby will make an appearance before you are induced!

The funny thing is I was hooked on milkshakes throughout my pregnancy, and I consume a vast amount of dairy but nope, my son is taking ALL the goodness out of me, which is evident when you see him, he is a big plump happy baby!

I think the bugaboo Bee folds up small also.

One of the perks of being a twin, you can blame everything on the other twin!

When I was nine months pregnant I went to the dentist, my teeth was lovely, not one filling in my mouth. Fast forward 10 months later, I have 3 fillings, 1 crown and 1 extraction. I knew babies really take it out of our bodies, but Geez! I didn't realise they can seriously ruin your teeth! I will need full dentures if I ever had another baby!

"NO, don't smack the flatscreen TV with your toy" "NO, don't smack nan nan" "NO, don't smack mummy" "NO, don't smack your cousins" "NO, stop biting" "NO, no biting the wires" "NO, no grabbing the shower cord" "NO, don't pull the curtain" "NO, don't lunge off the bed, feet first" "NO, don't put that in the toilet" All I keep saying is "NO" and all he does is laugh at me. I am bewildered that all my charges were SO much better behaved than my little cheeky monkey.

Kids really do play up for their parents! I just went to Bromley and managed to get some Maternity clothes in Pumpkin Patch, Next, Mothercare ( which was rubbish and fell apart after a few washes) and H&M. Have to admit that none of them were my style and I was suprised at the lack of choice we have.

Thanks for that FM, I didn't think about a food dairy, though I did take photograhic evidence of his rash ( which I showed my GP hence he referred us to Kings straight away as he could see how bad the rash was) but the food dairy is a good idea. Thanks also for the reassurance that Kings were good with you, hopefully they will pin point his allergy, it will make my life so much easier. We were given nutramigen which my son refuses to entertain, he took a sip , spat it out and shook his head 'No', cannot say I blame him, it smells absolutely foul. I tried the oats milk today and he is not having that either I will have to keep trying. The lasagne was last week and he took a few spoons of mine, and he was fine ( I should have checked the packet to see exactly what was in it but I didn't so I can't really say how much cheese/milk etc was in it) and the butter on toast he is fine with. I have not tried him with anything else dairy after his reaction to the goat milk. It does seemed a strange dairy allery but as a few of you said, maybe he is growing out of his dairy allery and able to tolerate it in small doses. It is quite ironic because when I was pregnant with him, I craved milkshakes!!

Thanks everyone. It is just so confusing because if goat or cow milk comes near him, it is like he has a sixth sense that it will not be good for him and automatically starts gagging. With the goat milk he never even got to try it properly as just a drop touched his lip and he broke out in a horrible rash. I was surprised that the ice cream/chocolate gave him a really horrible rash all over his torso and face. Plus we tried a cereal ( with water) and the cereal had something in it that made him have a rash also. He ate some of my toast that had butter on it, and was fine, and a lasagne ( shop bought). I have not tried him on anything else though. With regards to the calcium as I am still breast feeding I am not overly concerned about that, though I have pasta with added calcium, orange juice with added calcium that I give him and he does love canned fish ( with bones) so he should be ok. I would not wean him off the breast until I am happy that he is getting all his needs met in the way of vitamins/minerals. ( I also don't think he will be giving up the breast without a battle anyway). I had just presumed a dairy allergy would mean avoiding all things with cow/goat milk. Plus October is just a very long time to wait as he will be over one and I really was hoping to reclaim by body back but then. As for the health visitor, I refuse to go to them for any advice and my GP is not much use, he just referred us to Kings.# I guess I shall have to wait until October!

My ten months old son has an allergy to dairy. When he was given formula for the first few days of his life, he used to vomit it all back up, I was concerned and tried my best to breastfeed him after not being able to in the beginning, luckily I was able to breastfeed. However I am trying to wean him off the breast now but he seemed to have an rather strange dairy allergy. Firstly I consume lots of dairy in my diet but he is fine with that, no rashes, no funny stomach and no horrible nappies. Yet formula, chocolate ( that was a family member letting him have a taste!) ice cream, fresh cow's milk, fresh goat's milk etc and he comes out in a horrible horrible rash that covers his face and body. BUT he can eat toast with normal butter on it, butter croissant , and lasagne that has white sauce and cheese. I am confused as what kind of dairy allery is that? He does not have an appointment for Kings until October but I really want to get it sorted now as I am trying to wean him off the breast and it is getting hard sorting his diet out. I have ordered oats and hemp milk to see if he will have that. Has anyone else come across this kind of dairy problem?

Definitely slater the nipples in Lansinoh cream, as it does not needs to be washed off either before a feed, for the first few months I was constantly putting Lansinoh cream cream on and as a result I did not get cracked nipples. I hope she gets from relief soon, it is not easy breastfeeding.

I do believe in showering the little people in affection. I am always kissing and cuddling my nieces/nephews/charges/son. They love it, and you can see they love basking in the attention. I do honestly believe that a child bought up with lots of praise and attention grows up to be secure and happy. I would hate to be one of those families that when they grow up do not cuddle or kiss each other much. There is nothing like a big kiss and cuddle.

Yep you are right, I keep getting drawn in. This really is my last post and you can call time Indiana. Indiana Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > HeidiHi - I am sure you promised many posts ago > that it was going to be your last post??! > > Shall we call it time now ladies and gents?

GG Right so if my son becomes a peado or a murderer I am supposed to be number one mummy? I don't think so, I would love him, but I would most certainly not be supportive. Small crimes are different matters but hopefully he won't go down that road! I still don't know what that has to do with harming a baby via smoking? And I do accept people cock up, I cock up but as I said earlier, a baby is supposed to be the biggest motivation!

I am obviously a product of my environment since my family members either died or got ill through smoke relatd cancer,or like my mum , dad and other family members despite smoking heavily at a very young age, they managed to give up smoking,, or like other members of my family/friends, they want to give up, but not enough so thus they are still smoking. Edited to say that with the latter, if you ask them they will say they want to give up, but yet they are not prepared to put in the hard work, hence they are still smoking. Giving up anything is hard, but it is possible if you really are prepared to give up and endure the hardship that comes with breaking an addiction. missus Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > "as Lig said, there are help for smokers out > there, patches etc..." > > ....Are you actually serious?! Patches?! You are > very lucky, my dear, that you decided you were > above smoking cause if you still continued you > would know that patches don't make a blind bit of > f'in difference to most people who have smoked up > until the point of getting pregnant (i.e. a long > time). > > RE your comment on willpower. Have you not > considered that smokers have the same amount of > willpower as you but a greater level of > addiction?!

See, you don't know me at all, I would love my son if he was gay, that does not bother me in any shape or form, he is my son, I gave birth to him, and I will do my best by him but I know he will do what he wants at the end of the day when he is an adult and as long as he is not breaking any laws, I will be supportive of him. And IF I HAVE A DAUGHTER AND SHE SMOKED WHILST PREGNANT, I WILL BE ON HER BACK TO GET OFF IT. I have flaws, that is normal. EVERYONE is judgemental. Just as you are judging me, we are all judging each other but some people like Lig will voice their opinion and some people won't voice their views. As I said, I would give a look, I would not say anything because there are too many unstable people around who probably would smack me one if I said something. I get random strangers approaching me and telling me things ( example in earlier post about my son and his hat). Carrying precious cargo is the ONE time just for nine months, you put that baby first. That is all. People have plenty of time to give in to their weakness afterwards and take up their vices again but is just nine months really hard to put your baby first? giggirl Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Yes it is dramatic HH, but you are being really > sanctimonious so I'm hoping that a little bit of > drama might help you see that. > > Yes, some people are weaker than others - so what? > It's only one dimension of a personality. Be a > little more accommodating, a little more accepting > of people's weaknesses. Acceptance of people > despite their flaws is a STRENGTH. > > Today your child is a little baby but as he grows > and develops he will become a flawed human being - > with faults - just like the rest of us. Just to > state the obvious - all these little "unborn > babies" that people are talking of - in just a few > short years they will be the ones having a crafty > fag outside of the Bishop on a Saturday night. > Some of them will be gay, some of them will take > drugs, some of them will be smokers, some will be > alcoholics, some will have criminal records, etc. > So if today's grown ups are just seeing things in > black and white - how well do you think you'll be > getting on with your little treasures when they > inevitably turn into flawed adults? Will you just > shake your heads and say "I don't know what I did > wrong?"

That is rather dramatic isn't it? giggirl Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Yes HH you're right. Some people are WEAK. Let's > save ourselves a lot of trouble for the future, > put all the WEAK people against a wall and shoot > them shall we? Serves them right for being weak. > > Good for you that you're not weak like the others.

It might shock her into thinking about it. If someone told me they were disgusted that I was smoking and harming my baby, I would feel guilty, but that is me and my conscience and I would know they are right. SeanMacGabhann Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > > > Oh I dunno - having a stranger come up to me and > "politely" tell me I'm being disgusting must be a > sure-fire winner

Who said I want to go stop everyone's addiction? I just think pregnancy is the one time you stop bad vices, as Lig said, there are help for smokers out there, patches etc. Some people are just weaker than other people. That is all it is, weakness. Nothing in life is easy, but I am a firm believer in that if you really want to do something, you will find that willpower , there is evidence of that everywhere. If pregnancy and children don't give you the motivation and willpower, nothing will.

Jam is my sister's account ( though my mum uses it also!) but yes I mentioned it in earlier posts about the addiction, there are help to break the addiction, and if you want to give something up, you can, I know lots people that I have done, my mum, my dad, my sister, friends, etc. The fact that people have given it up means it is possible and I would like to think Pregnancy is the one time you would give up. I liked my weekly bottles of wine, I craved them when I was pregnant but I didn't drink because I didn't want to risk it.

Yes, I smoked for a short while in my teens, but didn't like it and gave it up. And smoking IS a choice, no one makes you go to the shops and buy cigarettes and then puff them do they? missus Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > HeidiHi Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > Smoking is not a risk we have to take, smoking > is > > something we choose to do. > > > ..clearly not, and have never been, a smoker then, > HH?!

Before I became pregnant, I found swimming and stomach exercises using the swiss ball to tone up my stomach. I also run 2 times a week in the park for an hour and I have to say it did work.

Can I just say that crossing the road is a part of life, we have to cross the road to get where we need to get to. Smoking is not a risk we have to take, smoking is something we choose to do. I think my example of a shot of vodka is better since we can choose to have a shot of vodka, a fag etc. Also there is lots of posts about people feeling the need to comment when one is pregnant see here: http://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/forum/read.php?29,480477,page=1 When you become pregnant it does appear that we become public property, I have had numerous comments when I was pregnant about what I can/can't do and so on. So smoking whilst pregnant in public is just asking for it really just as others saying they felt they could not have a glass of wine in public for fear of people judging. People are just looking out for the precious cargo!