Saila

this is exactly what we've been going through too just started 3 or so weeks ago (9 month old) he cries like the world's ending and never usually cries at anything so it's a real shock to us and we can't stand it we googled solutions and they all suggested a "feet on upper arm" idea, similar to above. It 'worked' in that the nappy went on fairly quickly, but really upset us as seemed really cruel - so we stopped (after about 3/4 changes) and went back to chasing him around the room with a half open nappy stuck to his backside... perhaps we should continue then, if they 'give up' eventually? still seems harsh but makes sense if they learn in the longer term

My best advice would be to get a doula or private midwife or equivalent. Then you have *consistent* care which is so so important. I think cost can be as little as ?500 They may be able to fight your corner for admission to the ward, pain relief and/or breast feeding councillor etc Also, they can be with you if your partner is asked to leave (as man arent' allowed in the wards at night) I so wish someone had said this to me... As for the wards; if you can afford to buy a room, then buy one. I was given a room out of sympathy last time and it was amazing. i would (personally) take out a loan for the above two privileges

shed load of ready-made sachet meals lashings of disposable nappies a sprinkling of formula milk a dash of gina ford ...and not an ounce of guilt :)

What's the etiquette on how clean recyclable stuff should be? e.g. Soup carton - should you rinse? i usually rinse baked bean tins etc Is this the right thing to do - or do ppl just throw recyclable stuff into the blue bin without rinsing?

Is it afull moon?

i pay until 6:30 but have told work i have to pick up at 6pm it's a white lie but it means i have no heart attacks on the way home good luck xxxx

i agree - i'm totally freaked out by death probably because i've had a very 'protected' up bringing, avoiding the conversation at all costs. we had no animal deaths when i was younger(didn't have animals) and i didn't know my grandparents. Religion is great for masking the truth. no wonder it's lasted so long. My boss's father just passed away and she said 'well - it happens to all of us doesn't it' It's taken 32 years for someone to say that to me in that context. Amazing how comforting that is... in a strange pragmatic way the earlier we understand that fact, the better....?

I personally think it's desparately sad that the NHS is asking for charitable donations. However, i think this has been going on for years hasn't it? It's 'normal'. What's upsets me is the time I was last at Kings the nurse told me that HALF the babies in special care were there cos they were dehydrated. It costs near on ?1000 a night to keep a baby in special care. Formula milk or even the old fashioned sugar would easily prevent these babies getting dehydrated. That, or perhaps training the midwives about breast feedig or better still having *available* bfding counsillors on the post natal ward. This week NICE passed up the opportunity of approving Avastin to treat colon cancer. It costs ?2k a month of that drug. Two fewer babies in special care..... all very depressing Bring back Matron?

:) ....VERY pro-active new management

read somewhere once that 75% of all colds in the world are had by the under 5's" And the other 25% of all colds are had by woman/mums... You know where I'm going with this one....

how did EDF fair? can we have a heads up? erm..."Mixed political views due to ED being sandwiched btw Conservative Dulwich Village and working class Peckham?" Was EDF the most fun to post on? (?)

agree with both posts we do a nannyshare with another baby, same age we interviewed loads of nanneis with twins experience, and found a great nanny in a way - your 'methods' i.e. routine or not are probably important to discuss with your other family as well as the nanny Both parents doing very different approaches might be a pain, but if say you're both routined it makes life a lot simpler/easier for the nanny. It means you can stagger the sleep times by about 15mins so you can feed while the other's asleep etc

we used dummies for out side of house only. It was a real godsend. Especially during those bus journeys when the last hting you want is a crying baby. We occasionally use it to settle our little one (10 months) if he's over tired etc. But he's just growing out of it himself. I know many people who've used dummies and none of them have not been able to kick it when they're older. It just takes a few nights of 'no' and they forget about them. or if they're older that 'dummy-fairy' trick etc. I'd definitely use them next time again as it's work well for us and sorts out the over tired thing so quickly and calmly, as and when he gets over tired.

Not all scousers eat scouse, in fact most don't even know what it is... Keef!

We do a similar thing: One does drop off and the other picks up. Up 6:50am shower Baby up 7am Baby to nannyshare 8am Baby picked up from nannyshare 6pm Baby home fed/bath/bed 6-7pm We eat 7-8pm Casual work, usually involving sorting through emails in front of tv 8-9pm Watch tv 9-10pm Bed I think the above routine is probably quite common for all working parents (not sure what 'power couple' means) Gives opportunity to 'work late' for either parent during the week to catch up hours lost doing drop off/pick up We also go out at least 1x a week and the other partner babysits

Cat net is waste of money. We all bought them and the cats found them really comfy to sleep on. Don't bother with them, just keep the bedroom door shut.

there's advice on line and i think your health visitor can help as every baby is dfferent. We started weaning ours early as he cried after he'd had a full milk feed and was clearly still hungry He was 5 months old. We started him on things like baby rice for a few weeks then sweet potato, courgette and pear etc

My Dad's second cousin removed is Tony Benn

thanks fuschia - that's pretty clear

i didn't realise that if it was in your own home you didn't need to be ofsted registered? how confusing i always thought that there was this rule (3 hours or somehting) to do with those who aren't registered, at home or not. but i'm probably wrong

what's being introduced into the food chain exactly? i thought the cows were cloned?

There's government legislation that says you can't look after a baby without qualifications for more than 3 hours.. or something like that. someone else on here will know more than me. I didn't pay a deposit.. they didn't ask for one? but it was a state nursery so perhaps they don't give you that option? Maybe the private ones do. Anyway, we went for a nannyshare in the end.

I see. The usual 'you can't beat a bit of science-bashing' to keep the punters happy

Eternal sunshine of the spotless mind? I got motion sickness watching that

So.... Why headline news? If no harm at all?