Thank you both. I didn't think I'd be able to say no, for reasons stated but she's been given alternatives.... I sent her to her sister's room -she's got an app whet you can play with make up /hair colour etc. She has now opted for a new style and highlights.... I feel I like I've been given a reprieve. Until the next thing. I guess the need for independence is strong, given she sees her older sister having more freedom.