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I have a young child. Like all, he can be noisy. He gets up at 6am but I don't let him in our garden until after 9am regardless of weather. It's not perfect but I am mindful of my neighbours. Some people just aren't. It's just a difference In manners and social responsibility I think. 7.45am is just not polite on their part.

I would but I find the forum is a nightmare for downloading onto.

Finally I have met the talking cat. It is a big tabby who basks in our garden occasionally. It's the first time he has spoken whilst actually in ours so finally I have my answers.

Lol. Mick Mac Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Someone's getting a coating as Micky Flanagan > would say.

Oh dear. Nice try Mick Mac. Let me break this down for you. Yes this is the lounge. A place for open discussion which we are having. That doesn't mean open discrimination is permitted. If you were "testing the fairness" of my "current family situation". Why did you then say "sorry, I couldn't resist." Couldn't resist what? You knew you were being cheeky and that's why you apologised in advance. Regardless, the sexism wasn't in the supposed provocation of a discussion, but in your assumption that I don't work. Your rather stunning example - are you saying in your example that something isn't fair? If so, isn't fair on who? The breadwinner in a family or the homemaker. I only ask to be polite because it's pretty clear from your first comment and the comment subsequent to your example that you think it's not fair on the breadwinner. This is so far off base that I haven't the time nor will to explain it you to you. Then to your final point. A genuine attempt at a discussion which I am happy to address. The occasion where the pendulum will swing the other way is so far gone that is doesn't bear consideration. I want to give you an example as you did me. I?ll defer to the Everyday Sexism Project?s Laura Bates, who tackled this line of thinking in regards to employment (one of many many areas where sexism pervades): "If you believe that the right person always gets the job, observes Bates, this must mean that you believe ?there are more than three times more men named John, qualified to lead FTSE 100 companies in the UK than all the women in the UK put together?. All the 32 MILLION women combined? Just statistically, that doesn?t make sense.? Like I say, we are so very far from the tipping point in so many aspects. What I think some people don't realise is feminism and anti Sexism is a battle for equality. Not for women to have the upper hand. All humans regardless of sex should want this for themselves and their children. I certainly care about this even more now I have a young son. See below a quote by a feminist with better words than me: "In her 1991 book Schoolgirls, American journalist Peggy Orenstein tells the story of a schoolteacher who noticed that the girls in her class were taking up significantly less ?verbal space? than the boys. When she started making a conscious effort to call on female and male students equally, the boys complained that the girls were receiving preferential treatment. ?Equality [for these boys] was hard to get used to,? said the teacher. They perceived it as a loss. The reality is that if society is to become more equal, people who have traditionally occupied a disproportionate amount of space at the top ? will have to move aside to make room for more women and other historically marginalised groups. This will inevitably feel like a loss for some men. But those who really believe in equality, will understand why it?s necessary." Mick Mac Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Robert Poste's Child Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > > > > Mick Mac, were you being intentionally sexist? > > > > Sexism - I don't think so - This is the Lounge and > I was testing the fairness of some current family > situations, where to pick a relevant example, Mum > could have five years "off work", until little > Jonny goes to school, but the child still gets to > go to nursery twice a week, for his development > with like minded conversationalists of his own > age. Daddy gets to go to work every day. > > I don't see what's sexist about having a > discussion about fairness in modern day marriage. > > > Each to their own of course - work it out > yourselves, that's what's important. There is no > doubt woman have had a bad deal. But if the > pendulum swings far enough then eventually we will > need to address unfairness towards men in modern > marriage. Will we not.

Thanks so much. curlylocks Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > You can swim in the lido without being a member. > http://www5.fusion-lifestyle.com/centres/Brockwell > _Lido/facility/Outdoor_pool > Link to ticket prices at bottom of page & link to > timetable in grey box on right...

It does sound good. I am also toying with the idea of a swim at Brockwell Lido then lunch outside at the cafe. But I'm not sure if you have to be a member to have a swim. I would imagine so. TheCat Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I'd second the idea earlier in the thread for > brunch at the Picturehouse and then a film. Which > is what Mrs Cat planned for my birthday a year or > 2 ago, while our child was in nursery. > > Might not sound that special, but usually when we > get a free night, we go to dinner or go away for a > night; and get a bit over excited...,leading to > very fuzzy heads the next day when the kids are > back. So, for me to do something 'normal' like > brunch and a film (which we might have done > without even thinking about it before kids), was a > nice change....and very much appreciated....

This message is for Mick Mac and Jules and Boo. Initially I didn't want encourage the ruination of my friendly, nice and informative thread with typical EDF going off the point crap. I wanted to ignore the posts that were trying to make and encourage what appears to be sexist remarks. Only because, I'm nice, having a nice day and wanting to talk to nice people about nice things and I didn't come on here for anything other than that. So really I wanted to ignore the sexism that pervades everyday life, once again and just move on. But I recently watched this short video on racism and I think it stands true for sexism and other forms of discrimination. I doubt Mick Mac would even bother to watch the video let alone see how their comments are inappropriate. Jules and Boo would probably think I'm being touchy again. Even for me it seems crazy to be going down this route over a small toe curling sexist remark. But like the video points out, if you permit it, you permit it. I don't. Please watch it if you want to see how the small things we say or accept to be said influence a whole set of behaviours in society: https://www.theguardian.com/world/2017/jun/15/new-zealand-stars-tackle-tiny-racists-helping-to-normalise-prejudice If the link doesn't work,google "Taika Waititi takes on racism ? video" Mick Mac Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > As it's his birthday, maybe you could treat him by > going to work when your child is in nursery. I'm > sure he'd appreciate that. > > > Sorry. Couldn't resist.... :) > > Franklins does a decent breakfast and you can sit > outside the Farm Shop and people watch. That's > what I'd do.

Not such an advanced solution, but watching The Three Day Nanny series one and two on tv, gave me so many ideas and pretty much turned my son around. Also it's entertaining. So when the parents do get an hour or two at night, it doesn't feel a slog to watch a bit and pick up handy tips acted out for you to mimick. I'm sure you can buy or download it somewhere.

Really? Lolol. Ok 😃 Hahahahahahha. Jules-and-Boo Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > oh. touchy.

I don't get it. Are you assuming I don't work? Perhaps you should learn to resist? Mick Mac Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > As it's his birthday, maybe you could treat him by > going to work when your child is in nursery. I'm > sure he'd appreciate that. > > > Sorry. Couldn't resist.... :) > > Franklins does a decent breakfast and you can sit > outside the Farm Shop and people watch. That's > what I'd do.

Wouldn't it be easier just to rehang on your own property? Then it's all your business.

I hope you aren't suggesting what I think you are suggesting. We have been married 16 years. There's no chance. Seabag Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > 9 - 12 noon? > > Man with woman, on your own, day off, no kids > > Erm....at a push a bag of croissants and a jug of > coffee (at some point in those 3 hrs) > > The rest is pretty simple really

Great ideas. You are clearly an old romantic. siousxiesue Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Champagne brunch at South London Gallery? > > Couples massage session? > > Watch Wonder Woman or Hampstead at the > Picturehouse, the screenings start at 10am. You > could sit in the back row...

Try dub dub and away. A local business.

Just saw them. Eww. fruityloops Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > The bay windows are in, and oh my gosh, they look > tragic... > > It's such a shame such poor quality housing was > allowed on this site.

It's my husband's birthday next Friday. He has the day off Utd like to do something special for him whilst our child is at nursery 9-12. So that doesn't leave long. All I've really come up with is a picnic but we know the area very well (15 yrs) and everywhere I can think of would be nice but not that special. As it stands I'm thinking of a picnic at the new Pavillion in Dulwich Picture Gallery. Can anyone think of anything better? It doesn't have to be posh or anything. By special I mean unique or stand out. In fact the less posh the better for his style.

I know someone who ran out of their house a few weeks back so stop thieves stealing their car. The thieves ran them over twice and he is dead now. This was a big wake up call to me. I mention this because you put on your trainers to go out and confront them. And I get it. But it's just not worth it. Stay in your houses, call the police, stay safe.

Yes a shower before bed without drying off looks good. Also Magicool is good from amazon.

Informative. Thank you. binkylilyput Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Nah, there's not a lot at all I'm afraid! The best > options are Mamma Dough pizza restaurant which is > nice. Also Babur is a well known, upmarket Indian > restaurant. There's Donde which is a pretty lame > tapas bar. The Chandos pub was renovated a few > months ago (was a bog standard, old fashioned > boozer) into some generic pub that also does > pizza. The Honor Oak pub is also generic and food > is lame. Recently the caf? called Hopscotch has > re-opened as Two Spoons and is quite nice. > > As for shops.....even less! there's a little gift > shop and a bicycle shop.....and a chip shop. Oh > and a small deli. > > Anyway, the good news is that the transport > connections are fabulous with loads of trains > (when they run) and various buses. Also lots of > nice green trees (go a walk up One Tree Hill).

We have moved, still in East Dulwich but a short bribe from Honor Oak. Just checking if it's worth a avisit on a night out? Or for nice shops. Nothing stands out immediately from a drive by. Any good restaurants or bars to try?

Who in their right mind lights a fire pit in this heat! Even in the evenings! I would melt. The world is a fire pit.

I wonder if these would work I. This weather. Maybe stuck to a pillow of teddy rather than them? Anyone tried? https://www.tesco.com/groceries/product/details/?id=254470779&sc_cmp=ppc*GHS+-+Grocery+-+New*PX+%7C+Shopping+GSC+%7C+Top+Offers*PRODUCT+GROUP254470779*&gclid=CJOdzIzTytQCFd2p7QodkC4HMQ&gclsrc=aw.ds

Oh and I forgot, my sister used this stuff during her Labour to cool down and it's very refreshing and natural: https://www.sanareva.co.uk/product-evian-mist-baby-300ml.html?gclid=CIru7rPCytQCFci87QodbNwJXQ

I'm also freezing half a bottle of water and topping up with regular water at bedtime so he has access to cold water most of the night as it defrosts. Mind you it's so hot I have to replenish all my ideas half way through the night.